Sometimes healing is complicated.
There are moments when someone else’s win feels like a reminder of what you’re still waiting for.
When someone finds love while your heart is still healing.
When someone gets the job you dreamed of.
When they’re celebrating — and you’re barely holding it together.
And then comes the guilt:
“Why can’t I just be happy for them?”
But here’s the truth:
You can be happy for them and still hurt for you.
Both can exist at the same time.
Two Truths Can Coexist
You can be genuinely proud of someone you love
and still feel the sting of what you haven’t reached yet.
You can cheer for them with your whole heart
and still carry quiet disappointment inside your own.
Your joy for them doesn’t make your pain any less real.
And your pain doesn’t make you bitter — it makes you human.
Your Feelings Aren’t Selfish
Feeling left behind doesn’t mean you’re jealous.
It means you’re processing.
It means you’re aware of your own unmet desires — and that awareness takes courage.
Don’t shame yourself for feeling the ache.
Don’t guilt yourself into pretending it doesn’t exist.
Your emotions deserve space, too.
Let Yourself Feel It All
Instead of choosing between pride and pain — allow both.
Celebrate them. Honor your feelings.
Let their joy inspire you, not diminish you.
And when it hurts, give yourself grace.
You’re not unkind. You’re not ungrateful.
You’re just navigating the hard part of being human:
loving others while still healing yourself.
You’re Not Falling Behind
Someone else’s timeline doesn’t erase your path.
Your time will come — in your way, at your pace, through your own becoming.
Until then, hold both truths gently:
“I’m happy for them.”
“And I’m still healing me.”
Both can live in your heart.
Both can be valid.
And neither makes you any less worthy.
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